Gay Dating Apps

Gay Dating App Manly In Trouble For Its "Red-Hot Perfect Body" Editor

Gay dating app Manly’s being criticized for its editing feature.

The British dating app Manly recently released a new add-on feature for users to play with, but its causing all kinds of problems.

The feature, costing £4.99, offers users the chance to completely change themselves in their pictures.

With the add-on feature, users can add facial hair to their pictures, add fake tattoos, exaggerate muscles, and more.

You can see plenty of problems with this app.

Not only is Manly promoting unhealthy, and now completely unrealistic, ideas of “the perfect male body,” but its encouraging users to participate in that lie.

On top of that, this adds all kinds of problems in terms of dating and hooking up. People already get put off when you look different than you do in your profile picture, and now you can change it so you look like a totally different person? Who else sees the problem in this? The producers of MTV’s Catfish must be salivating.

But, it looks like the marketing team at Manly doesn’t care about all this as its social media pages keep promoting the software as “the red-hot perfect body editing.”

Lukcily, some people have pointed out just how wrong this whole thing is.

Real Talk: The Whole Truth Behind The "Your Preference Is Racist" Discussion

MTV’s Decoded is back again to specifically talk about racism on gay dating apps.

We know, several readers are probably rolling their eyes and sighing (or did so as soon as they saw this article’s title).

That said, the conversation of racism in gay dating keeps coming up for a reason. The topic is relevant in several gay men’s lives.

We know, in today’s PC culture some readers may feel like we’re the boy who cried wolf, and honestly some people’s perspective on the issue can be quite repetitive/restrictive.

That said, the overall situation is fairly simpler than most are willing to consider.

First, check out the Decoded video starring internet content creator Dylan Marron (of the “Shut down” series) to see most of the situation’s truth. Then, come back to read this Instinct writer’s additional thoughts below.

Now again, we know that some of you are already triggered and writing down your opposition to this side of the conversation (if you haven’t already), but hear me out.

No matter what, the preference to date only one type of guy is by definition racist. (Note: I don't mean having a preference of liking Native/Indigenous men more than other races. I mean the decision to reject all other men or one type of race specifically).

For instance, imagine if I were to say, “I’m only interested in Black guys. It’s a preference.” By saying so, I’m ultimately rejecting every other shade of man that there is out there. Do all mixed men look alike? No. Do all Asian men have the same personality/lifestyle? No. So, how can I outright reject all of men of a certain color? That’s a gross generalization.

By rejecting all white men, for instance, simply because they’re white, I’m showing prejudice against them based on their race, which is the definition of racism.

On what basis can you really justify going, “I wouldn’t date you because you’re ____,” or “I would never date a _____ guy,” when there’s a wide variety of looks and personalities within one race?

And if you’re immediate response is, “That’s just what I like,” or “That’s what makes me hard,” my response to that is, “Why?”

Now, of course, there could be some understandable explanations like some kind of traumatic experience. But even then, the simple solution is exposure. Meeting a few more Latino men can widen your perspective on Latino men and wipe away that bad memory (in terms of dating at least).

Now for those vehemently against this “Preference is Racism” mentality, here’s where you might be happy to see my reasoning.

At the end of the day, this writer realizes that I have no real sway in anyone else’s life. Everyone is entitled to dating whomever they like, and my forcing my views on you would ultimately be another form of oppression.

Let’s be honest, this is your life. I may not be happy with how you run it, but you get to live and date how you want.

But that’s not all. There’s one final piece to the puzzle. Acknowledgement.

As someone who understands the “preference” defense is racist, I can still acknowledge that I shouldn’t force my views too much on others. But, that doesn’t mean I can’t express them.

In addition, you can live your life and date whomever you want, but I hope that you can eventually acknowledge that what you’re saying/thinking is inherently racist. I’m not asking you to change (though I’d like you to), but I’m asking you to acknowledge the problem.

Alright, that’s my spiel. That’s my perspective. What do you think? Is there a hole in my reasoning? Do you agree or disagree? Share your thoughts below.

Just remember when commenting, there are (hopefully) other human beings on the other end of your screen.

Now That China Owns 'Grindr', Is Your Security At Risk?

In January 2016, Grindr sold 60% of its company for $93 million to Chinese gaming company Kunlun Group. Now, the company has acquired the remaining 40% of the successful gay dating app for $152 million--bringing the total buyout for the app to a whopping $254 million.

Grindr CEO and founder, Joel Simkhai, will step away from the company and Grindr’s current vice-chairman Wei Zhou will be executive vice-chairman and CFO, and former Facebook and Instagram veteran Scott Chen will become an integral part of Grindr as CTO.

Does this new shift in the Grindr brand mean changes for the apps 3.3 million daily users? Will this come with new taps or customized emojis? Potential to upload video?

Something that users should be more concerned about is their privacy. U.S. Intelligence Officials are worried that the Chinese government may be accessing personal information and tracking Grindr users. China currently collects personal information to build databases that are used for either influence or intelligence. Still sure you want to host?

According to the Washington Post, Grindr assures that app user security is their priority, and since the company will remain US based, it will abide by U.S. laws. However, Chinese companies are subject to turn over data for the sake of 'public security', a term that all companies must comply with based on Chinese government standards.

Shanthi Kalathil, director of the International Forum for Democratic Studies at the National Endowment for Democracy, has stated:

The problem is that the exact role Chinese firms have in supplying data to the Chinese government is unclear. What is assured is that – unlike in a democracy — if the Chinese government demands this kind of data from Chinese companies, the companies have little recourse but to comply. What we need is more clarity on the implications of these sorts of purchases and what it means for non-Chinese citizens. At the very least, if you are thinking about blackmailing individuals or compelling people to act in a certain way, that information is incredibly valuable.

Just another thing to worry about aside from getting messages from faceless profiles. Grind with caution, boys! It may not matter if you're on the DL anymore.

New Dating App Asks You: "Don't Be A D*ck"

We’ve all felt that rejection at some point in our life. Maybe we are already self-conscious about our weight or the way our hair looks or maybe even our status, but nothing takes the cake quite like coming into contact with prejudice that is disguised as ‘preference’. Sure, we all have types, which is an innate connection to cultural or social norms that have been engrained in us to ‘like’ what we ‘like’. While that’s valid, is it really necessary to give that guy who has taken the time to say hello a big “Get Lost” because he doesn’t meet your standards or criteria in your arsenal demands?

No fats, no femmes, Whites only, no Asians, 25 and under, hairless, negative only—you may be thinking it, but these types of statements create hostility within the LGBTQIA community, further perpetuating stereotypes that so many are working against. If you’re not interested, just ignore, block, swipe left, or try kindly declining before making that one dick move that proves why you are the gem that you are. Preference is one thing, but humiliating or ridiculing others because they don't meet your preferences is a different story.

So if you’re having a hard time with turning down the douche notches, Chappy, a new dating app, may be what you are looking form.

The app seeks to diffuse the disrespect found on dating apps/sites and make the hunt less grueling.

Chappy states:

Introducing The Chappy Pledge, our biggest project since we first launched Chappy. Over the last 10 years, gay dating apps have revolutionised the way our community connects with eachother. Technology has helped us invariably, from meeting likeminded guys just a few feet away, to building networks and making friends in new cities. While these platforms have given us such a convenient space to date and connect, they also provide a screen to hide behind. Sometimes we lose touch of the realities of what we're putting out there. We say things we may not even realise could offend others, and prejudice is disguised as preference. Our incredible and progressive community is pulled backwards in time by anonymous platforms that provide spaces for actions and language that we would never deem acceptable in real life. We did some research into how guys use, view and talk about dating apps and we kind of just thought... Why be a dick to someone when you could just swipe left?

We’ve decided it’s about time that guys loved dating again, so we are taking on unsolicited d••• pics and headless torsos to put faces and people back into dating for the gay community.

A safe, high-quality platform, Chappy is all about gay guys making connections on their own terms, whatever they are looking for...

Whether you’re looking for Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now, Chappy gives you ultimate control. You pick a mood, then we show you the guys who are looking for the same thing as you. Find a match and see what happens!

Check out this video and learn more about the Chappy Pledge. Maybe you’ll be up for, maybe you won’t, but at least don’t be a dick.

This video was updated on 11/27/17 without Josh Rivers, previous editor of the Gay Times Magazine--here's why!



Gay Dating App Blued Might Be The Best App In The World

Screenshot / via Bloomberg

There’s a lot of concern around China when it comes to gay content. China is constantly banning or flagging gay content in movies or series like Alien Covenant or Addicted the Web Series.

On top of that, Chinese companies have gotten hold of several gay dating apps and many fear they will ruin these apps.

For instance, earlier this year Grindr was officially bought out by Chinese company Beijing Kunlun Tech. The company had already bought 61.5% of Grindr’s stakes before deciding to buy the rest in May.

Then, a new sugar daddy app called DaddyBear came onto the scene this summer and offended many people for its jargon that ostracizes gay men living with HIV. It turns out that the company behind that app is also from China.

But, what we often forget is that the largest gay app in the world, and possibly the best one, is Chinese based Blued.

Blued is like any other gay app in that it helps gay men meet other gay men. That said, the app also has multiple other features that several apps lack. These features include having a built in news site, entertainment such as gaming, and a live streaming feature where streamers can earn money.

Perhaps the reason this app is so successful and focused on actually bettering the lives of gay men is that it was created by a gay man who wanted to find a way to connect with other gay men.

To find out that story and more, check out the video down below.

Watch "What the Flip?": Grindr's New Web Series About Swapping Profiles

Did you know that Grindr made a web series?

The series, titled What the Flip, is supposed to take a look at what the dating experience is like for different kinds of Grindr users.

The first episode was already released last week and another one is about to come out next week. This pattern will continue every other Thursday until all five episodes have come out.

But what is the series about?

Well, the goal is to approach the topics of racism, ageism, and body shaming in the Grindr user base and the online gay community as a whole.

The first episode, which you can watch below, shows a White man and an Asian man switching profiles and seeing how the other side lives. In addition, host Billy Francesca comments on the situation along with random pedestrians found on the streets of Hollywood.

As INTO editors, the digital lifestyle magazine working with Grindr to create the series, stated, “What the Flip? exposes the way we talk to each other, the good and the bad. But it also reminds us that we’re still human, and that we can do a better job of how we represent ourselves in the mad rush to connect.”

While the episode is simple and short, it is trying to express a higher message and point out a very true and crippling problem with the gay community, so the video is worth a watch.

Again, you can check it out down below.